To be nervous, to take time, to fumble, to lose, to make mistakes, to not know everything, to worry, to cry, to be angry, to be overwhelmed, to be imperfect, to be sad, to not look your best all the time, to follow what you believe in,to question, to fail, to be not sure, to spend time alone, to ask for love, to give love (even when not asked for),to put your feet up & relax, to let go, to sleep in…
In the daily hum-drum of our lives and in the constant rise of should be’s, must be’s and gotta be’s…
It’s okay to be yourself… It’s okay to be YOU!
A compulsive book buyer/ collector that I am, I often find myself in a book store when out to run an errand or if I have sometime to myself before I catch up with friends over the weekend. My husband often compares me with a child who is amused and excited to be in Disney Land or in a world class toy store – Hamleys. He says I bear on my face and in my eyes same excitement and enthusiasm as that of a child!
Although a murder mystery fan, I have recently started to explore other genres and books set in different time period. Emma, the book I am reading currently, is the result of that exercise. Another great book that I came across during one such trip (yes trip, coz going to a book store is like Narnia to me – a different world altogether!) to a book store is a book called “tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch Albom. What attracted to me was three simple words in the tag line – “an old man, a young man and life’s greatest lesson“.
While reading the third chapter of this book, “The Third Tuesday – We Talk About Regrets”, I came across a line – “we all need teachers in our lives” and it bought back that longing for a teacher in my life and is also the reason why I wrote this post.
Life has been very kind to me (Thank you) in it that every problem that I faced, I have managed to find a way out. And the help has come from various sources – be it books, long chats with my sister (who is also my BFF), talking it out with family and friends ~ they all have been a great source of inspiration and learning. I am very lucky to have a proper education (thank you my wonderful parents) and then as you grow up and start to do your thing, you come across various kinds of people and experiences in life and everyone and everything teaches you something – Life is the best teacher of all!
But even then I miss a teacher’s presence in my life. I have always wished that I too had a Teacher/Guru with whom I can talk to whenever I am confused, low, in doubt, anxious or just happy ~ a teacher who can show me the right path, help me understand the world around me and in me! Not sure if I ever will find any or maybe I have and I don’t know yet! (Told you.. I love mysteries)
What about you? Do you have a teacher with whom you can talk about everything? Somebody to guide you, help you? Do share your experience. Be glad to read about it.
If we were having coffee right now, you would really love the combination of hot piping coffee and wonderful weather outside. It’s been pouring since morning and its noon now. Absolutely love the rains, winter is my another favorite season. View from my balcony 🙂
Some soulful music to go along – Sukoon Mila
If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I wish sometimes if I had superpower! There are times when I feel strongly for and helpless at the same time – nothing much I can do about, if only I had a superpower I could help both human beings and animals. I feel quite sad 😦 …You turn on a news channel or read a newspaper, there are only bad things to report! Sole reason I have stopped reading newspaper or watching any news channel in the morning – at least that lets me be enthusiastic and cheerful and I can do my bit to spread the cheer around.
If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I am planning to get serious about working out and get back in shape. I have put on a lot in the last one year and that is totally not acceptable. As they say, health is made in kitchen first and then at the gym or at yoga class.
If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my worrying habit and how I need to stop worrying. I have a serious case of “paralysis by analysis” ~ and it certainly doesn’t help me or work in my favour. I would often wonder how I come across to other people and whether I am doing something that I shouldn’t have or said something that I shouldn’t have or in some cases.. should have! You understand what this does to me right? Total waste of time…
If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my resolution for the rest of the year ~ to be less of a perfectionist and idealist. While I understand life is a journey and that we constantly evolve and learn new things, there are times when I don’t do certain things or take that necessary step just because things are not what I expected them to be or like them to be… bad! And this is one of the reasons that I am not able to post as frequently as I would like to – such a harsh critic of my work that at times I end up rejecting my posts and stories…how mean can I get, no?
If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how excited I am that I am working on my novel and I hope to get it published soon! Wish me luck 🙂
If we were having coffee right now, what would you like to share?
In the grand scheme of things, when we think about life, our thoughts invariably are drawn to family, friends, work, colleagues, neighbours et cetera. While it is good to think about people and things that matter the most to us, we very conveniently, forget that one person – the MOST important person. Who are we talking about? Domestic help, you may say… after all, today’s lifestyle is such that we can’t do without a good household help. But no…. the person I am talking about here is the one who is reading the article right now (writing the article in my case!)
Ever wonder, why is it that we are at the end of our lists always? Are we conditioned that way? Why can’t we be at the top of the list and not feel guilty about it? Or be free from the fear of being perceived as a selfish person? And before you go on blaming the world – stop right there! You are equally responsible for this and that makes you a partner in crime. How? While your loved ones are excited about a project or helpless about a situation, you don the role of a “superperson” at the drop of a hat and leave no stone unturned for them. But let us not forget that we are mere mortal human beings and we all deserve some time off, some pampering and TLC ourselves. As they say in the flight cabin before the flight takes off, “please make sure you have the oxygen mask before you go on helping others.”
I realize this when I was reading Vinita Dawra Nangia’s article “Give yourself a break”, also the prompt for this article. We don’t think twice before helping others out but when it comes to us, there is a long list of ifs and buts waiting for us and taking an off becomes a project in itself considering the amount of planning and thinking goes into it, not to mention the endless discussions regarding how and when!
If this situation sounds too familiar, then you need is to fall in love… have an affair and a passionate one! What? Am I crazy? Nope… I am talking about falling in love with yourself again. Look out for yourself, be your own best friend, love yourself for who you are and the way you are. Because only when you love yourself unconditionally and are happy inside, it makes all the difference in the world outside.