It’s Okay to…

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It’s Okay….

To be nervous, to take time, to fumble, to lose, to make mistakes, to not know everything, to worry, to cry, to be angry, to be overwhelmed, to be imperfect, to be sad, to not look your best all the time, to follow what you believe in,to question, to fail, to be not sure, to spend time alone, to ask for love, to give love (even when not asked for),to put your feet up & relax, to let go, to sleep in…

In the daily hum-drum of our lives and in the constant rise of should be’s, must be’s and gotta be’s…

It’s okay to be yourself… It’s okay to be YOU!

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Guru and disciple

Teacher…

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A compulsive book buyer/ collector that I am, I often find myself in a book store when out to run an errand or if I have sometime to myself before I catch up with friends over the weekend. My husband often compares me with a child who is amused and excited to be in Disney Land or in a world class toy store – Hamleys. He says I bear on my face and in my eyes same excitement and enthusiasm as that of a child!

Although a murder mystery fan, I have recently started to explore other genres and books set in different time period. Emma, the book I am reading currently, is the result of that exercise. Another great book that I came across during one such trip (yes trip, coz going to a book store is like Narnia to me – a different world altogether!) to a book store is a book called “tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch Albom. What attracted to me was three simple words in the tag line – “an old man, a young man and life’s greatest lesson“.

Book cover "tuesdays with Morrie"

While reading the third chapter of this book, “The Third Tuesday – We Talk About Regrets”, I came across a line – “we all need teachers in our lives” and it bought back that longing for a teacher in my life and is also the reason why I wrote this post.

A page from the book "tuesdays with Morrie"

Life has been very kind to me (Thank you) in it that every problem that I faced, I have managed to find a way out. And the help has come from various sources – be it books, long chats with my sister (who is also my BFF), talking it out with family and friends ~ they all have been a great source of inspiration and learning. I am very lucky to have a proper education (thank you my wonderful parents) and then as you grow up and start to do your thing, you come across various kinds of people and experiences in life and everyone and everything teaches you something – Life is the best teacher of all!

But even then I miss a teacher’s presence in my life. I have always wished that I too had a Teacher/Guru with whom I can talk to whenever I am confused, low, in doubt, anxious or just happy ~ a teacher who can show me the right path, help me understand the world around me and in me! Not sure if I ever will find any or maybe I have and I don’t know yet! (Told you.. I love mysteries)

What about you? Do you have a teacher with whom you can talk about everything? Somebody to guide you, help you? Do share your experience. Be glad to read about it.

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If we were having coffee right now…

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If we were having coffee right now, you would really love the combination of hot piping coffee and wonderful weather outside. It’s been pouring since morning and its noon now. Absolutely love the rains, winter is my another favorite season. View from my balcony 🙂

Rain WP_20150918_09_09_43_Pro View from my Balcony

Some soulful music to go along – Sukoon Mila

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I wish sometimes if I had superpower! There are times when I feel strongly for and helpless at the same time – nothing much I can do about, if only I had a superpower I could help both human beings and animals. I feel quite sad 😦  …You turn on a news channel or read a newspaper, there are only bad things to report! Sole reason I have stopped reading newspaper or watching any news channel in the morning – at least that lets me be enthusiastic and cheerful and I can do my bit to spread the cheer around.

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I am planning to get serious about working out and get back in shape. I have put on a lot in the last one year and that is totally not acceptable. As they say, health is made in kitchen first and then at the gym or at yoga class.

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my worrying habit and how I need to stop worrying. I have a serious case of “paralysis by analysis” ~ and it certainly doesn’t help me or work in my favour. I would often wonder how I come across to other people and whether I am doing something that I shouldn’t have or said something that I shouldn’t have or in some cases.. should have! You understand what this does to me right? Total waste of time…

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my resolution for the rest of the year ~ to be less of a perfectionist and idealist. While I understand life is a journey and that we constantly evolve and learn new things, there are times when I don’t do certain things or take that necessary step just because things are not what I expected them to be or like them to be… bad! And this is one of the reasons that I am not able to post as frequently as I would like to – such a harsh critic of my work that at times I end up rejecting my posts and stories…how mean can I get, no?

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how excited I am that I am working on my novel and I hope to get it published soon! Wish me luck 🙂

If we were having coffee right now, what would you like to share?

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That One Love Affair We All Must Have!

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In the grand scheme of things, when we think about life, our thoughts invariably are drawn to family, friends, work, colleagues, neighbours et cetera. While it is good to think about people and things that matter the most to us, we very conveniently, forget that one person – the MOST important person. Who are we talking about? Domestic help, you may say… after all, today’s lifestyle is such that we can’t do without a good household help. But no…. the person I am talking about here is the one who is reading the article right now (writing the article in my case!)

Ever wonder, why is it that we are at the end of our lists always? Are we conditioned that way? Why can’t we be at the top of the list and not feel guilty about it? Or be free from the fear of being perceived as a selfish person? And before you go on blaming the world – stop right there! You are equally responsible for this and that makes you a partner in crime. How? While your loved ones are excited about a project or helpless about a situation, you don the role of a “superperson” at the drop of a hat and leave no stone unturned for them. But let us not forget that we are mere mortal human beings and we all deserve some time off, some pampering and TLC ourselves. As they say in the flight cabin before the flight takes off, “please make sure you have the oxygen mask before you go on helping others.”

I realize this when I was reading Vinita Dawra Nangia’s article “Give yourself a break”, also the prompt for this article. We don’t think twice before helping others out but when it comes to us, there is a long list of ifs and buts waiting for us and taking an off becomes a project in itself considering the amount of planning and thinking goes into it, not to mention the endless discussions regarding how and when!

If this situation sounds too familiar, then you need is to fall in love… have an affair and a passionate one! What? Am I crazy? Nope… I am talking about falling in love with yourself again. Look out for yourself, be your own best friend, love yourself for who you are and the way you are. Because only when you love yourself unconditionally and are happy inside, it makes all the difference in the world outside.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Beneath Your Feet.”

The first thing I do in the morning is step into my cute little balcony garden – say hello to my plants and sit there for a few minutes (time permitting). It’s amazing what nature can do to you even if you spend just a couple of minutes.

This picture was taken a couple of days earlier, not knowing a post will be on its way 🙂

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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Finite Creatures.”

We all know we are finite creatures; mortal beings and yet we go on living our lives like we are going to live forever. All of us, rather most of us, or even few of us (not sure how many of us) go through our lives feeling bad about something, holding a grudge against somebody, garnering feelings of hatred, being disrespectful of other’s feelings, being abused by others, being insulted by others et cetera for what seems like forever. So, if we all know we are mortal beings then why we put up with certain things? Why do we behave in a certain way? Why can’t we let go? Do we need a reminder every day that we are mortal? No, I am saying you should just leave everything and go meditating rest of your life…nope! After all, we have this one life and the least or the best we can do is to LIVE THIS LIFE!

We mortal beings go through many things in life – we face ups and downs, we have achievements to be proud of, failures to learn from, best days to be grateful for and enjoy to the fullest and worst days to be balanced and take each day as it comes – each stage leaves us with many memories, long lasting relationships, lessons and these experiences help us be a better and a stronger person. Am I being an idealist here? No. Do we not act and react to situations based on how we feel? Most of us do. I do. Maybe that’s practical.

But maybe, there are times when if we are more aware and practice some self-control, we might actually be building a better place for all of us to live in. Instead of dealing with pent up feelings, grudges, hatred, revenge, handling egos every day like it’s the most normal thing and nothing bad can ever come out of it, we would rather concentrate on turning things around, for better. Sometimes all it needs is an action – a first step and things could change drastically. And for things that can’t be changed, consider letting it go. You don’t have to torture yourself and suffer. Let go of all the negativity and build on the good things in life. Life is beautiful – there are so many things to do, to see, to experience and to learn that there is no time to waste on such insignificant matters.

Like Blogging101, I would like to think of this life as Life101 – a class made by God to help us navigate through life by teaching us various things. Take each day as new assignment wherein we learn new things and sometimes just being a good neighbour/ good friend/ good colleague/ good life partner/ good parent et cetera. Our friends and family are The Commons for us where we can talk and share our happiness and sorrows, get advice and be a mentor. And just as we are not obligated to do all the exercises that we receive every day, we are always better off when do them. We learn a lot of things in the process, we make new friends and we strengthen the old ties and become a better person in the end!

Happy Blogging!

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