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Kabir started the day with his favourite track. He had set it as his alarm tone – a perfect way to set the tone of the day, he thought. He felt better than he had in the past few months and looked forward to better his life, one day at a time.  He had just landed a fantastic job – a position that he had been eyeing for a long time. Finally, things have started to fall in place and he felt quite positive and motivated.

He made himself a cup of coffee and sat down to look at the papers that were occupying most of his table. He had planned in detail and made notes – notes about things/ habit that he should get rid of, to make place for the new and better things in his life. Notes about what he should do and the ways he could go about it. He had laid a life plan for himself.

Looking at the list and notes, he didn’t feel as happy and motivated as he thought he would or rather he should – he couldn’t tell whether it was the excitement or the nervousness! And as he tried to self-talk, he noticed that there wasn’t any excitement in his voice and he didn’t feel as confident about himself as he felt last night.

He was free now – free from a loveless relationship and a corrupt workplace. Then why was he not happy? What was it that was stopping him to be his new self? Feelings of doubt and desperation surrounded him once again. And he understood it will take longer than he had thought. He felt as if he was held a hostage in a fortress.

But he was locked – locked away in his memories of the past, present day dilemmas and in worries about the future.

Coffee with macaroons

If we were having coffee right now…

If we were having coffee right now, you would really love the combination of hot piping coffee and wonderful weather outside. It’s been pouring since morning and its noon now. Absolutely love the rains, winter is my another favorite season. View from my balcony 🙂

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Some soulful music to go along – Sukoon Mila

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I wish sometimes if I had superpower! There are times when I feel strongly for and helpless at the same time – nothing much I can do about, if only I had a superpower I could help both human beings and animals. I feel quite sad 😦  …You turn on a news channel or read a newspaper, there are only bad things to report! Sole reason I have stopped reading newspaper or watching any news channel in the morning – at least that lets me be enthusiastic and cheerful and I can do my bit to spread the cheer around.

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I am planning to get serious about working out and get back in shape. I have put on a lot in the last one year and that is totally not acceptable. As they say, health is made in kitchen first and then at the gym or at yoga class.

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my worrying habit and how I need to stop worrying. I have a serious case of “paralysis by analysis” ~ and it certainly doesn’t help me or work in my favour. I would often wonder how I come across to other people and whether I am doing something that I shouldn’t have or said something that I shouldn’t have or in some cases.. should have! You understand what this does to me right? Total waste of time…

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my resolution for the rest of the year ~ to be less of a perfectionist and idealist. While I understand life is a journey and that we constantly evolve and learn new things, there are times when I don’t do certain things or take that necessary step just because things are not what I expected them to be or like them to be… bad! And this is one of the reasons that I am not able to post as frequently as I would like to – such a harsh critic of my work that at times I end up rejecting my posts and stories…how mean can I get, no?

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how excited I am that I am working on my novel and I hope to get it published soon! Wish me luck 🙂

If we were having coffee right now, what would you like to share?

Uncertainty just ahead

One Word Inspiration: Uncertainty

Surprising how this one word can bring out two exactly opposite feelings in two different people at the same time. While at one hand, it is a source of surprise and excitement, building anticipation of what would come next; on the other hand, it is a sure shot way to send your nerves into doldrums.

We all want to be certain of our lives, want answers and expect to know the outcome beforehand even before we get into an agreement, when we buy something, when we invest, even in a relationship – we all want guarantee, an assurance that things will go a certain way while we carry in our minds the outcome we expect of a situation. But does it work that way? I wish it did, it would take off so much pressure off me. But the answer is no. Life loves to throw googly at us every once in a while and it is up to us, just like a batsman, how we play it.

Me, I love making lists and plan elaborately for a lot of things in my life. I make lists for daily activities (prioritizing them and put them in order), monthly goals, bucket lists, vacation plans, shopping (what I need for my wardrobe and my beauty supplies) only to change it few days later and in some cases on the same day. My daily to-do list is most susceptible to change. Since I am a freelancer now (an outcome of an uncertainty in my life), there are days when I have to change my priorities if one of the clients I work for need something urgently or before deadline, ruining my otherwise perfectly planned day.

While we don’t mind uncertainty when we travel, sometimes even adding that spontaneous plans are the best, why do we get all worked up when it’s about our daily lives? Don’t you think even life, just like travel, will be better if we were to be more spontaneous in responding to the changes rather than worry about the outcome? Just let go and enjoy this journey as well, one that contains beautiful moments, important lessons, strong relationships, enhanced knowledge.

I know, you might be thinking not everything in life can be spontaneous. It is easier said than done and I couldn’t agree more. There are things that need proper planning to ensure that we and our families lead a good life – things like education, career, finances et cetera. But while we are at it, let us not get bogged down by all these.

Be spontaneous, cheerful and embrace the uncertainty in your life. You might be pleasantly surprised!

Things I Have Learned

Things I’ve Learned…

Here is a list of things I have learned over a period of time. Although, everyday is a learning opportunity and there are some lessons to be learnt, some consequences to be faced, some actions to be taken…. but these are the lessons which, if you live by, I feel it becomes a lot easier to deal with the world, its people and of course, yourself 🙂

  • Speak less, listen more
  • Read as much as you can
  • Procrastination never pays, it only adds to the pressure/ nervousness that you are already feeling
  • Learn to differentiate between people who care for you and those who pretend. Not everyone who is sweet to you has your best interest at heart.
  • Hold your guards ~ Not everyone will understand that your kindness is actually your strength. And no, don’t have to prove yourself.
  • Take a deep breath and relax – People on this earth are either on the same page as you are, that is, still learning how to handle things and situations or are just stupid. Don’t worry!
  • Just like what you do is nobody’s business, similarly what others do is and should be none of your business. Keep calm and do your thing. Don’t waste precious time and energy.
  • However big or small, do your bit to make this world a better place to live.
  • And lastly, be kind. Just like you, there are thousand others struggling to learn things. Few words of encouragement and support will go a long way.
I am a writer

Je écris parce que…

I write because… well there are a lot of factors at work and I can’t put numbers saying which comes first. There are days when I write because I came across a beautiful quote, a great article, a thought, a movie, I saw something happening …… and then there are days when I just want to write.

I could say writing is therapeutic – for me! What food is to the body, reading and writing is to the soul.  Reading is traveling to a different era, a new city, getting to know different cultures and languages, getting introduced to the local mannerisms. And when I read, it’s not just a boring page turning activity that I do just because people around the world do so… it’s an animated affair! I imagine, live the characters’s life and think what I would have said or done, I laugh and cry, feel sad and get overwhelmed ~ an endless array of emotions.

And that is exactly what I would like to give to my readers, not just a story but an experience, an emotion that they would carry with them, ponder over it, feel it, discuss it – something that people can relate to. And I will not lie if I say I am being a bit selfish here – writing will give me a chance to converse with the readers in the form of comments and feedback and most importantly I look forward “to Inspire and Get Inspired!”

Life Is Beautiful
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Let’s Get (corpo) Real!

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Finite Creatures.”

We all know we are finite creatures; mortal beings and yet we go on living our lives like we are going to live forever. All of us, rather most of us, or even few of us (not sure how many of us) go through our lives feeling bad about something, holding a grudge against somebody, garnering feelings of hatred, being disrespectful of other’s feelings, being abused by others, being insulted by others et cetera for what seems like forever. So, if we all know we are mortal beings then why we put up with certain things? Why do we behave in a certain way? Why can’t we let go? Do we need a reminder every day that we are mortal? No, I am saying you should just leave everything and go meditating rest of your life…nope! After all, we have this one life and the least or the best we can do is to LIVE THIS LIFE!

We mortal beings go through many things in life – we face ups and downs, we have achievements to be proud of, failures to learn from, best days to be grateful for and enjoy to the fullest and worst days to be balanced and take each day as it comes – each stage leaves us with many memories, long lasting relationships, lessons and these experiences help us be a better and a stronger person. Am I being an idealist here? No. Do we not act and react to situations based on how we feel? Most of us do. I do. Maybe that’s practical.

But maybe, there are times when if we are more aware and practice some self-control, we might actually be building a better place for all of us to live in. Instead of dealing with pent up feelings, grudges, hatred, revenge, handling egos every day like it’s the most normal thing and nothing bad can ever come out of it, we would rather concentrate on turning things around, for better. Sometimes all it needs is an action – a first step and things could change drastically. And for things that can’t be changed, consider letting it go. You don’t have to torture yourself and suffer. Let go of all the negativity and build on the good things in life. Life is beautiful – there are so many things to do, to see, to experience and to learn that there is no time to waste on such insignificant matters.

Like Blogging101, I would like to think of this life as Life101 – a class made by God to help us navigate through life by teaching us various things. Take each day as new assignment wherein we learn new things and sometimes just being a good neighbour/ good friend/ good colleague/ good life partner/ good parent et cetera. Our friends and family are The Commons for us where we can talk and share our happiness and sorrows, get advice and be a mentor. And just as we are not obligated to do all the exercises that we receive every day, we are always better off when do them. We learn a lot of things in the process, we make new friends and we strengthen the old ties and become a better person in the end!

Happy Blogging!

A Heart

A Year of Firsts – Our First Valentine’s


Our first wedding anniversary is only a week away – flashes of memory of the year gone by leaves us with varied expressions on our faces and sweet memories ensure a grin from ear to ear, several times a day! One such memory is of our first valentine’s day. Read on…

“You have been married for 7 months (an arranged marriage!) and it’s your first Valentine’s Day – what to do, where to go and what about the gift – talk about the pressure right? You want to make sure that all your firsts (first anniversary, first birthdays, first valentine’s, first Diwali, Christmas or Id) are spent in such a way that they remain etched in your memories forever…..however cliché it sounds.

Like any normal couple, all excited, my husband and I start looking out for destinations to spend our first valentine’s together. Days pass and the excitement plummets as endless planning and discussions get overshadowed by daily chores and office pressure. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and the destinations we were really interested in are almost full and the prices have shoot up like crazy, after all resorts do rake in with all the last minute bookings. And so the obvious question – what do we do now? Should we forget the idea of going out and about and spend our first Valentine’s in the city or maybe even at our home! After all, there are all these articles everywhere suggesting various ways and means of spending Valentine’s Day right at home – cook your dinner together, take a spa day or have a spa day right at home et cetera.

One afternoon, while I was busy feeling bad that we might have not so special first valentine’s that’s when this sweet little thing called as world wide web came into picture and helped me out like an angel! I stumbled upon a website that provided us with a lake side camping with wine and chocolates…and boy I jumped with joy! After all the necessary transactions, I was relieved that now nothing can stop us from spending a very romantic valentine’s day. But, there is always a but… there was something that was going to stop us or so it felt like at that time, we might not be able to have a memorable valentine’s day.

After much delay, we finally started our journey. We decided to leave behind all the drama that was associated with the planning. Taking a sigh of relief, we head towards our destination with radio setting the mood for us – playing all romantic songs courtesy valentine’s day.

Both excited and nervous in anticipation whether or not our destination would match the pictures sent to us by the organizers, it was all put to rest as we reached our destination. First thought that came into our minds was “it was worth it”! A beautiful, pristine lake was right in front of us and 3 cute little camps set up for us in one corner.

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There was a nice set up for us near the lake – we had our barbeques, enjoyed dinner and our lovey dovey conversations under the starlit sky. You don’t get to see so many stars when in the city – we were overwhelmed and hoped that we had one of those DSLR cameras to capture countless stars in the sky that shined like diamonds! We decided to retire a little early for the day in the hope of not losing out on the beautiful morning the next day.

Woke up quite early (around 6 o’ clock) and was ready with our cameras and phones…. Hoping to capture the sunrise! We took as many pictures as we could while being in awe as the sky turned from blue to orange and the reflections on the clouds changed from yellow to orange and looked nothing short of a beautiful painting!

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After being satisfied with our photographic efforts, we decided to climb down and pay the charming pristine lake a visit. Everywhere we looked, the views were fascinating and the surroundings so calm, it felt as if we have been transported to a parallel world! We were spellbound and bewitched!”

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It was finally time to head back home – refreshed and rejuvenated and all over in love again! Despite all the drama, we managed to have a fabulous first valentine’s day – one that we would never forget!

So, what’s your Valentine story? Do share 🙂

[PS:- All the pictures were taken by us at our lakeside camping, except the featured image]