It’s Okay to…

It’s Okay….

To be nervous, to take time, to fumble, to lose, to make mistakes, to not know everything, to worry, to cry, to be angry, to be overwhelmed, to be imperfect, to be sad, to not look your best all the time, to follow what you believe in,to question, to fail, to be not sure, to spend time alone, to ask for love, to give love (even when not asked for),to put your feet up & relax, to let go, to sleep in…

In the daily hum-drum of our lives and in the constant rise of should be’s, must be’s and gotta be’s…

It’s okay to be yourself… It’s okay to be YOU!

Guru and disciple

Teacher…

A compulsive book buyer/ collector that I am, I often find myself in a book store when out to run an errand or if I have sometime to myself before I catch up with friends over the weekend. My husband often compares me with a child who is amused and excited to be in Disney Land or in a world class toy store – Hamleys. He says I bear on my face and in my eyes same excitement and enthusiasm as that of a child!

Although a murder mystery fan, I have recently started to explore other genres and books set in different time period. Emma, the book I am reading currently, is the result of that exercise. Another great book that I came across during one such trip (yes trip, coz going to a book store is like Narnia to me – a different world altogether!) to a book store is a book called “tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch Albom. What attracted to me was three simple words in the tag line – “an old man, a young man and life’s greatest lesson“.

Book cover "tuesdays with Morrie"

While reading the third chapter of this book, “The Third Tuesday – We Talk About Regrets”, I came across a line – “we all need teachers in our lives” and it bought back that longing for a teacher in my life and is also the reason why I wrote this post.

A page from the book "tuesdays with Morrie"

Life has been very kind to me (Thank you) in it that every problem that I faced, I have managed to find a way out. And the help has come from various sources – be it books, long chats with my sister (who is also my BFF), talking it out with family and friends ~ they all have been a great source of inspiration and learning. I am very lucky to have a proper education (thank you my wonderful parents) and then as you grow up and start to do your thing, you come across various kinds of people and experiences in life and everyone and everything teaches you something – Life is the best teacher of all!

But even then I miss a teacher’s presence in my life. I have always wished that I too had a Teacher/Guru with whom I can talk to whenever I am confused, low, in doubt, anxious or just happy ~ a teacher who can show me the right path, help me understand the world around me and in me! Not sure if I ever will find any or maybe I have and I don’t know yet! (Told you.. I love mysteries)

What about you? Do you have a teacher with whom you can talk about everything? Somebody to guide you, help you? Do share your experience. Be glad to read about it.

Coffee with macaroons

If we were having coffee right now…

If we were having coffee right now, you would really love the combination of hot piping coffee and wonderful weather outside. It’s been pouring since morning and its noon now. Absolutely love the rains, winter is my another favorite season. View from my balcony 🙂

Rain WP_20150918_09_09_43_Pro View from my Balcony

Some soulful music to go along – Sukoon Mila

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I wish sometimes if I had superpower! There are times when I feel strongly for and helpless at the same time – nothing much I can do about, if only I had a superpower I could help both human beings and animals. I feel quite sad 😦  …You turn on a news channel or read a newspaper, there are only bad things to report! Sole reason I have stopped reading newspaper or watching any news channel in the morning – at least that lets me be enthusiastic and cheerful and I can do my bit to spread the cheer around.

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how I am planning to get serious about working out and get back in shape. I have put on a lot in the last one year and that is totally not acceptable. As they say, health is made in kitchen first and then at the gym or at yoga class.

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my worrying habit and how I need to stop worrying. I have a serious case of “paralysis by analysis” ~ and it certainly doesn’t help me or work in my favour. I would often wonder how I come across to other people and whether I am doing something that I shouldn’t have or said something that I shouldn’t have or in some cases.. should have! You understand what this does to me right? Total waste of time…

If we were having coffee right now, I would talk about my resolution for the rest of the year ~ to be less of a perfectionist and idealist. While I understand life is a journey and that we constantly evolve and learn new things, there are times when I don’t do certain things or take that necessary step just because things are not what I expected them to be or like them to be… bad! And this is one of the reasons that I am not able to post as frequently as I would like to – such a harsh critic of my work that at times I end up rejecting my posts and stories…how mean can I get, no?

If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you how excited I am that I am working on my novel and I hope to get it published soon! Wish me luck 🙂

If we were having coffee right now, what would you like to share?

Uncertainty just ahead

One Word Inspiration: Uncertainty

Surprising how this one word can bring out two exactly opposite feelings in two different people at the same time. While at one hand, it is a source of surprise and excitement, building anticipation of what would come next; on the other hand, it is a sure shot way to send your nerves into doldrums.

We all want to be certain of our lives, want answers and expect to know the outcome beforehand even before we get into an agreement, when we buy something, when we invest, even in a relationship – we all want guarantee, an assurance that things will go a certain way while we carry in our minds the outcome we expect of a situation. But does it work that way? I wish it did, it would take off so much pressure off me. But the answer is no. Life loves to throw googly at us every once in a while and it is up to us, just like a batsman, how we play it.

Me, I love making lists and plan elaborately for a lot of things in my life. I make lists for daily activities (prioritizing them and put them in order), monthly goals, bucket lists, vacation plans, shopping (what I need for my wardrobe and my beauty supplies) only to change it few days later and in some cases on the same day. My daily to-do list is most susceptible to change. Since I am a freelancer now (an outcome of an uncertainty in my life), there are days when I have to change my priorities if one of the clients I work for need something urgently or before deadline, ruining my otherwise perfectly planned day.

While we don’t mind uncertainty when we travel, sometimes even adding that spontaneous plans are the best, why do we get all worked up when it’s about our daily lives? Don’t you think even life, just like travel, will be better if we were to be more spontaneous in responding to the changes rather than worry about the outcome? Just let go and enjoy this journey as well, one that contains beautiful moments, important lessons, strong relationships, enhanced knowledge.

I know, you might be thinking not everything in life can be spontaneous. It is easier said than done and I couldn’t agree more. There are things that need proper planning to ensure that we and our families lead a good life – things like education, career, finances et cetera. But while we are at it, let us not get bogged down by all these.

Be spontaneous, cheerful and embrace the uncertainty in your life. You might be pleasantly surprised!