In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Finite Creatures.”
We all know we are finite creatures; mortal beings and yet we go on living our lives like we are going to live forever. All of us, rather most of us, or even few of us (not sure how many of us) go through our lives feeling bad about something, holding a grudge against somebody, garnering feelings of hatred, being disrespectful of other’s feelings, being abused by others, being insulted by others et cetera for what seems like forever. So, if we all know we are mortal beings then why we put up with certain things? Why do we behave in a certain way? Why can’t we let go? Do we need a reminder every day that we are mortal? No, I am saying you should just leave everything and go meditating rest of your life…nope! After all, we have this one life and the least or the best we can do is to LIVE THIS LIFE!
We mortal beings go through many things in life – we face ups and downs, we have achievements to be proud of, failures to learn from, best days to be grateful for and enjoy to the fullest and worst days to be balanced and take each day as it comes – each stage leaves us with many memories, long lasting relationships, lessons and these experiences help us be a better and a stronger person. Am I being an idealist here? No. Do we not act and react to situations based on how we feel? Most of us do. I do. Maybe that’s practical.
But maybe, there are times when if we are more aware and practice some self-control, we might actually be building a better place for all of us to live in. Instead of dealing with pent up feelings, grudges, hatred, revenge, handling egos every day like it’s the most normal thing and nothing bad can ever come out of it, we would rather concentrate on turning things around, for better. Sometimes all it needs is an action – a first step and things could change drastically. And for things that can’t be changed, consider letting it go. You don’t have to torture yourself and suffer. Let go of all the negativity and build on the good things in life. Life is beautiful – there are so many things to do, to see, to experience and to learn that there is no time to waste on such insignificant matters.
Like Blogging101, I would like to think of this life as Life101 – a class made by God to help us navigate through life by teaching us various things. Take each day as new assignment wherein we learn new things and sometimes just being a good neighbour/ good friend/ good colleague/ good life partner/ good parent et cetera. Our friends and family are The Commons for us where we can talk and share our happiness and sorrows, get advice and be a mentor. And just as we are not obligated to do all the exercises that we receive every day, we are always better off when do them. We learn a lot of things in the process, we make new friends and we strengthen the old ties and become a better person in the end!
No, I am not talking about your net worth, bank balance or investments… I am talking about defining yourself solely based on the kind of person you are and the things you do, rather you like to do.
So have you ever wondered or you just gave it a quick thought and the response was a smile or a frown based on what constituted cluster of thoughts – a quick flash of your achievements, failures or a bunch of what-ifs! Well, whatever your response – all depends on how you define your worth!
The point is – this is not something new that has managed to grab everybody’s attention, rather this is something which was present since the time began whether it was a King trying to justify his worthiness to be able to hold onto the Throne or King’s key people proving their worth so as to be able to hold onto the eminent positions in the King’s Court.
Now a days, the competition is at its highest and so is the pressure to be nothing but the best. On daily basis – people are judged and perceived based on other people’s idea of worth of a person. This does not necessarily mean that we are exactly as people perceive or judge. There is a strong chance of a gap between what people see and what we are/do. Some examples –
- At School – worth defined by Teachers, Peers, Marks/ result, Tuition;
- At Home – worth defined by Parents, Siblings, Relatives;
- At Office – worth defined by Salary, Feedback from Line managers, Peers/Colleagues;
- At Social gatherings – worth defined by Friends, Relatives, Crowd as such….
Ideally, people’s version of you should not affect you to the extent that you make it a reality. Feedback might be useful, when it comes from reliable and trustworthy sources. Do make a note of it, and make sure you follow it up with those people. You might come across something which helps you to become better at various things, leading you to become a better person as a whole.
As Stephen Covey rightly puts, “Consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience, you will find your definition of success”. Once you have an idea of what exactly you would want to sound like, you can trace it back and figure what you would need in terms of skill, attitude and/or training to become that person. Jot it down somewhere for you to refer to it as often as you can/want. This will help you to absorb it, in mind and heart and then you are ready to take action on it. Start with the baby steps and you will become the person that fulfills all the criteria of being a worthy person, as defined by YOU!